2020, 2021

01.09.21 One Flesh Relationship Grief

I have been trying to write about the health problems I am having right now but haven’t made it very far. Please just pray for me until I can share more. At this moment I am okay enough to share this.
Putting that aside for the moment and since I am in a stable place for a while healthwise I want to share the following words from a daily email that my dear friend Angelique set up for me after Roy died. Some days the message hasn’t spoken to me like this one did but I encourage anyone who has lost a spouse to get these emails which is why I left the header on the email so you would know where to get these. This email from today is exactly what I would want to tell others about the grief of losing a spouse. Roy’s 70th birthday would have been tomorrow, January 10th, Rosalyn

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Fri, Jan 8, 11:45 PM (12 hours ago)
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One-Flesh Relationship
Day 117

 

A part of who you are is gone. Your identity is shaken to the very core. You wonder if you will ever feel normal again or if you will ever enjoy life again.

 

“When you lose a mate, you lose part of yourself,” says Dr. Jim Conway. “It’s as if you’ve had an amputation of an arm or a leg. I think that you don’t really recover; you adjust, and the process of adjusting varies with every individual. There’s no formula.”

 

The pain that comes from the loss of a spouse is much deeper than most people realize because in a marital relationship two people become one flesh.

 

“The man said, ‘This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called “woman,” for she was taken out of man.’ For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh” (Genesis 2:23-24).

 

When part of your flesh is abruptly taken away, there is a ripping and a tearing that leaves a huge, open wound.

 

“Until you have experienced the death of a spouse, there is no way you can tell someone how deep the hurt is. The Lord says that we are one flesh, and suddenly half of that flesh is torn from us,” says Beth.

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